Despite what you might be thinking as a single guy, women do want to date you. In fact, they want to date you so much that they often go against their better judgment and overlook things to cut you some slack.

It might be your fondness for T-shirts that came with your last case of beer or a habit of quoting "The Simpsons," but whatever your quirks are, trust us: The girls you are dating notice and are trying their best to see your better qualities.

Unfortunately, for every one of those special-to-you oddities that a woman is going to deal with on a case-by-case basis, there are definitely near-universal red flags women look for when sizing you up, especially on a first date. Obviously, you've all learned to be polite to the waitress, but there's more to these red flags women look for than the basics of gentlemanly behavior.

Read on for a rundown of red flags women look for and count against you.

1. Not Taking "No" for an Answer

Women are very aware of their own independence, and will be quick to get out of a situation when they feel that their decision-making isn't being respected. You might think that encouraging her to have desert after she's said "no" is showing that you want her to indulge, but what she's hearing is that you aren't taking her "no" for what it is — a choice she's already made and is justified in sticking to. This is one of the red flags women look for because it can lead to more serious control issues.

2. Bad-Mouthing Others

Men often mistakenly regard women as gossip-mongers out to cut one another down, which could lead you to believe that you can do the same. Of course, joking about the time you and your buddies made fools of yourselves over spring break is fine, but a woman won't be impressed when you dish dirt on coworkers, family or friends, or criticize those close to you. Bad-mouthing others is one of our red flags women look for because the lack of loyalty that comes through with this type of gesture will only leave her wondering if she's your next victim.

3. Holiday Aversion

For the most part, women are the holiday-keepers in society and grow up being involved in the preparation and buildup for both major holidays and family-specific traditions. While you don't need to have a tacky Christmas sweater collection that puts Mr. Rogers to shame, professing your hatred of Valentine's Day, birthdays, Thanksgiving, and so on will leave her wondering if you had a troubled childhood or are just too morose or cheap to celebrate. Women like to be spoiled on special occasions, which is why holiday aversions is one of the more important red flags women look for.

4. Ambition Deficiency

Few women will hold your filler job as a waiter against you. In general, women respect a working man in many shapes and sizes, but there is one magic ingredient that must be present to earn her respect: Being proud of your job or the steps you're taking to get to where you want to be are attractive qualities. Consequently, slackers on the bottom rung that cross their fingers that they'll never get promoted so that they never have responsibility are not. Upward mobility is what women want in their men, which is why this is a biggy among the red flags women look for.

5. Neglectful Behavior

Everyone has heard the word chivalry, and any man of dating age should be well-versed in the basics of being a gentleman, but a quick refresher can't hurt. When out on your first date with a new woman, you need to show her that you appreciate the time you have both set aside for each other. To show this appreciation, the cell phone needs to be turned off, introductions need to be made if you run into anyone you know and conversation needs to be polite and mutual.

Don’t Wave a Red Flag

Everyone thinks of first dates, and dating in general, in different ways, usually with some kind of sporting analogy. There is some merit to playing the game; you just need to make sure that you're following rules that will keep you from throwing out any of the red flags women look for that might end the game before you even take the field. There are some things that a woman can't or won't overlook, no matter how many other great and wonderful things you have going for you. Let the games begin.

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Do what feels right and you are probably in the ballpark, right? Wrong.

Here are the top 10 mistakes men and women make.

Men

1. They jackhammer. Pounding like an oil rig will only make your partner feel like you are using her for friction, and mess up her hair beyond repair. Yes, it looks like good "action" sex on screen, but in real life you need to mix it up a little.

2. They forget about the sensual in sexual. Food, dancing, music, massage…if you make your day more sensual, you’ll naturally end up having more sex in the long run. Eye contact and just plain old making out is imperative in keeping things hot.

3. They just ring the bell and go in. The clitoris is a small and highly sensitive piece of high tech equipment. "The man in the boat" for many is the key to a great orgasm, but just a few rough strokes may not be enough.

4. They imitate movies for their moves, rather than listen to their partner's nonverbals. Feeding each other strawberries while blindfolded, throwing aside all the files on your desk in the heat of passion, and Cirque du Soleil-like sex acrobatics all look good to an audience, but your significant other may just like the idea of being under the dark covers instead – nice 'n' simple.

5. They compare old years-long romance to a new love interest as if they were equal. Hormonally and neurologically, our brains and bodies will react to each of them differently….of course the newer one will look more interesting. Don’t forget you are looking at apples and oranges, not apples and apples.

Women

1. They assume nighttime is the best time for being intimate. Hormonally, women have an easier time achieving an orgasm in the morning. Also, by the time night falls (read: end of work day, kids, homework, dinner, cleanup) you both may be too tired. Try morning sex with the blinds closed on the weekends when you can sleep in.

2. They use sex as a weapon. Withhold it to "punish" your man and it becomes about power, when it should be about intimacy. (This being said, for women, climaxing when she is sad, angry or upset is almost impossible).

3. They forget how things they ingest can affect sex. Alcohol, antidepressants, antihistamines -- even a big plateful of pasta! These can slow you down and get in the way of the big "O."

4. They compare themselves to other people and assume their neighbors/best friends/coworkers are having better sex. This "Desperate Housewives" mentality is never very accurate — you have no idea what happens behind closed doors. Period.

5. They wait too long. Women want men to read their minds (while men always want women who initiate), and be exact and spontaneous when they do this. This makes for a lot of waiting around and eventually leads to no sex or bad sex.

Do a couple of these sound familiar to you? Then it's time to make revisions! How about your significant other?

Print this out and use it to start a discussion (hopefully a lively, but civilized one) about how to tweak your love life in a better direction.

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